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10 Tips to Survive the Holiday Season

by Linda Walter

Some people love the holiday season. It’s their favorite time of year. Others may feel a sense of sadness and loss during the holidays. Some may feel lonely and isolated.

Sometimes, when we see family members we revert to old childhood patterns which may hurt us and remind us of difficult times. Even though we think we’ve worked through these patterns, they just seem to crop right back up.

Feeling depressed or anxious is not unusual during the holiday season. Upcoming dinners, parties, family or friend gatherings may cause a great deal of stress. These feelings may be even worse for those who have experienced divorce, lost a love one, are living far from family and friends, etc.

Here are 10 tips to “Beat the Holiday Blues”:

1. Keep your regular routine.
A change in routine can lead to additional stress. Try to exercise at your usual time and stick to as normal a diet as you possibly can.

2. Think Moderation.
While the holidays may be a good excuse to drink and eat too much, we should try not to overindulge on food and/or alcohol, however tempting it is. Remember, eating and drinking may feel like they temporarily “ease the pain” of the holidays blues, but they can also lead to feelings of guilt.

3. Be realistic, try not to expect the “ideal” holiday.
So many of us have an idealized version of what the holidays should be like and are very disappointed when they don’t live up to those expectations. Try to be realistic, remember, nobody has a perfect holiday or perfect family.

4. Stay connected.
Make sure to leave time to spend with friends and/or family who value you. Ask them for support if needed.

5. Throw guilt out the window.
Try not to put unreasonable pressure on yourself to be happy, to rejoice, or even to enjoy the holidays. If you overindulge, say no to an invitation or request, don’t feel guilty about it. Give yourself a break this holiday season.

6. Don’t be alone, if you don’t want to.
If you anticipate spending the holidays alone, try to volunteer somewhere, in a soup kitchen, with children who are in group homes, or the elderly in various facilities. People will so appreciate you, you may feel better about yourself, but most of all, you’ll have company.

7. Focus on today, not yesterday.
There’s something about being with family and old friends that makes us become who we were and not who we are. When you find yourself reverting to old childhood patterns when with family members, try to walk away for a minute and remember who you are now. Also remember that it’s not necessary to play the same role as you did when you were younger, even if others are encouraging you to do so by their behaviors. If there is someone at the get-together who knows what you are like today, make sure to reach out to them and draw them into the interactions. That will help to ground you.

8. Just say no.
It’s ok to say no when you’re asked to do more than you can. It’s fine to say no to some invitations and fine to say no to those asking for favors. Remember, this is your holiday too!

9. Ask for help.
Holidays are often a time people attempt to take on too much, do too much on their own. It’s ok to ask for help from family and friends. Whether it be for decorating, shopping, cooking, or a shoulder to lean on, ask, often people are more than happy to lend a hand.

10. Be good to yourself.
If you’re feeling blue, pamper yourself, do what feels good, what you want to do. Try to take a walk, spend time alone if that’s what you want. Remember, this is your holiday too and you can be there for yourself just like you try to be for everyone else.

Remember, the holidays only come once a year and only last for a few weeks. If you follow these 10 tips, you might just find this year to be more joyful and less stressful.

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